What is Love, Anyway?

When it comes to love, 1 Corinthians 13 paints a much more complex picture than the love our society likes to talk about. What do you mean love is patient and kind? You mean envy boasting and pride has nothing to do with love? What about all the duels and fights history has recorded?

The love our culture pursues is so selfish and fleeting. The kind of love the Apostle Paul talks about is so much more effective and world-changing than the romantic love of trashy novels and Hollywood. 

It’s the kind of love that heals the world. May we all receive this kind of love as well as give it today.

Loving your Neighbor the right way

Cartoon of a boy and a teacher. The boy says, "Every time I try to love my neighbor, I get hit with a restraining order!"

Alas, if you get slapped with a restraining order, you probably aren’t loving your neighbor the right way! Continue reading “Loving your Neighbor the right way”

Love each other or perish

Cartoon of parents and a son in a vehicle. The son says, "Love, love, love! That's all you ever talk about. Do you think the rest of the world operates this way?"

Cartoon of parents and a son in a vehicle. The son says, “Love, love, love! That’s all you ever talk about. Do you think the rest of the world operates this way?”

For a class, I’ve been reading Tuesdays with Morrie. in the book, Mitch Albom quotes his dying professor:

“If you don’t have the support and love and caring and concern that you get from a family, you don’t have much at all. Love is so supremely important. As our great poet Auden said, ‘Love each other or perish.'”

Often, we don’t see love as a necessity. But it is as important as water or food. We need to give unselfish love as much as we need to receive it.

  • If you are a parent, continue to love your kids through the times they aren’t very lovely. Everything is a season.
    • Sooner or later, they’ll realize how much you love them.
    • Sooner or later, you’ll need them as much as they need you now.
  • If you are married, remember your vows. Learn to love unselfishly, especially when you don’t feel like it.
    • Be there for them in every situation.
    • You never know when you will need him or her to be your advocate.
  • If you are single, find a group of friends at church or another institution.
    • Find a group that you can be an advocate for.
    • If your parents are alive, find ways to honor them

No matter where we are in life, we can find someone to love unconditionally as they learn to do the same. Because at the end, the only thing that matters is love.

And it’s okay to talk too much about love. If you’re kids get annoyed about all the love talk, then at least you know they are getting the message.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13

 

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Why you can expect change in a marriage.

Cartoon of a bearded lady and a man

Cartoon of a bearded lady and a man. The man says, “Face it, Helen! You’re not the same gal I married.”

Change is going to happen, whether you want it or not. That’s just the nature of things. Some of us will gain hair where we don’t want it and others will long for the days when we had hair.

If you celebrated any wedding anniversary, then you simply aren’t the married to the same person you once were. We all change.

That’s a good thing. Celebrate the fact even our relationships change. Nothing stays the same. If an organism is alive, it is either growing or dying.

Take the time to make sure your relationship is growing even as the both of you are growing. Invest in your marriage like you would tend a garden.

Your partner probably isn’t the same person you married. And come to think about it, she may be very glad you aren’t the same person she married!

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The secret behind great parenting

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Cartoon of an annoyed boy next to a sleeping mom. The boy says, “Hey! It’s four in the morning. Why aren’t I the center of your universe?”

Whenever you become a parent, you want to do everything you can to make sure that precious child will have a great life. You start to think about college. You may have a baseball mitt already picked out. You may even start dreaming about what a great boy or girl that child will be.

Of course, nobody can prepare you for the challenges. Maybe the baby has colic for the first few months. Perhaps you had no idea how much time it would take to take care of this little one. But you pull through and continue to think of your child’s future even when they’re driving you crazy. Everyone wants to see their child succeed, right?

There is one secret to parenting that will help your child succeed, even thrive in the world and it isn’t about make him or her the center of your universe!

“Wait a minute!” you may ask. “What about my child’s self esteem?”

I’ve got news for you. Making your child the center of the universe will only cause her to be disappointed when she gets into the real world. Either he will find out he wasn’t as special as he though and begin a downward slide, or he will push back against the world and end up becoming a jerk and a bully.

Now you shouldn’t make your child feel horrible either. Beating anybody with words or deeds doesn’t make them better. It only makes them resentful, bitter and a bully.

The secret is to teach our kids to love others as they love themselves. You can’t do that by making them feel they are better or worse than anyone else.  You do that by showing love and respect to others as well as themselves. You do that by teaching them to respect and obey you, even while they learn to respect themselves and others.

If you teach your kids they are special… but so are the other seven billion people on this planet, then they can have a hope and a future.