I am not a certified marriage counselor, but I’ve been married for twenty-five years and am looking forward to the next twenty-five. We’ve had out ups and downs, but I am relieved to say my bride has stuck with me. What has been our secret? Mutual submission.
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21
The biggest problem with all marriages is that it contains two selfish people. When I entered into marriage, I selfishly thought my bride would take care of all my needs. And she thought the same. We had to learn to work together, show humility and to think of the other person.
It isn’t easy, and our culture won’t help. It will tell you it is all about your needs and your desires. That is why the more selfish we get as a society, the more marriage has suffered.
If you are a Christian, I would encourage you to read Ephesians 5:21-33. It contains some tough instructions for a husband and wife to follow. But I have found that it works.
It never was just about our needs.