A lot has happened since I said, “I do.” On my wedding anniversary, I pondered what thirty-five years of marriage has taught me.
On December 3, 1988, I took the plunge with a lady I had fallen for nearly two years earlier. We began as college classmates, learned to like each other (despite our very different music and fashion tastes), and fell in love, to the surprise of nearly everyone (including us).
Since that unseasonably warm December day, we’ve had a lot of adventures and misadventures. We’ve experienced career changes and loss. And we found ourselves in ministry. Boy! We didn’t see that coming!
Along the way, we raised two great kids, two cats, and a dog who hated children. Considering my wife was in children’s ministry, we didn’t consider that an asset.
There are time-worn tips on how to have a successful marriage. There are also a few lessons I learned along the way.
- How to solve the biggest problem with marriage
- Thoughts on a Marriage (2021)
- Why you can expect change in a marriage
Today, I am pondering some of the lessons I learned. Here are four observations that come to mind.